What Sensual Bachata Taught Me About Connection

The word people fixate on is sensual. The word that actually matters is connection, and it has almost nothing to do with how close you stand.

Listening louder than you lead

The best leads I have ever danced with barely lead at all. They suggest, then they wait. That half-second of waiting is where the whole dance lives.

Connection is not two people doing the same thing. It is two people paying attention to the same thing.

Learn to give that attention on the dance floor and you will notice it leaking into the rest of your life. That is the part nobody warns you about.